Gary Frimann, CRS, GRI, SRES,  REALTOR and Broker (Eagle Ridge Realty / Signature Homes & Estates)

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Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate

Please tell your friend they have a good sense of humor, Gary Frimann, CRS, GRI, SRES 


Given that Halloween is around the corner, may I suggest your friend use this?


8 Piece Halloween Crime Scene Decorating Set



Oct 17, 2021 02:56 PM
Susan Emo
Sotheby's International Realty Canada - Brokerage - Kingston, ON
Kingston and the 1000 Islands Area

My next door neighbour has used another Brokerage going on 5 years now and still has never sold.  The sign appeared again this morning.  The difference is, I wouldn't touch that listing with a 12 foot barge pole.  I want to send a Thank you for not using me Card ;)

PS once when the lot next to our childhood home came on the market, my Father tied his big old smelly billy goat as close to the lot line as possible and whenever people came to view it, all 26 of his other goats would run to the fence and begin talking to the people - it is still for sale today, more than 40 years later, lol

Oct 17, 2021 04:16 PM
Ken Jones, Commercial Real Estate
Kenneth J. Jones, Inc. - Toms River, NJ

Gary Frimann, CRS, GRI, SRES Some people won’t do business with family and close friends.They know business dealings are best conducted at arm’s length, require complete candor all of which can damage close personal relationships which they don’t want to damage.I wouldn’t be pissed off at them. I’d be grateful they thought enough of their relationship with you to want to preserve it.

Oct 17, 2021 06:42 PM
Brian England
Vacasa - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Ugh, I have had that sort of thing happen and it really is a punch in the gut.

Oct 18, 2021 04:10 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Life goes on. . .  

Oct 17, 2021 05:45 PM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Life goes on...but I do think Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist has an intriguing idea given the season!

Oct 17, 2021 05:09 PM
Lyn Sims
Schaumburg, IL
Schaumburg Real Estate Agent Retired

Get a new tennis & golf partner. Don't mention it to your neighbor. 

Nothing I could say would make this hurt any less. I think the surprise of seeing the sign is a shock also.

Oct 18, 2021 06:01 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

This happens more often than we often realize... has your neighbor given you a heads up and any explanation as to why?

Oct 18, 2021 04:24 AM
Diana Zaccaro Broker Associate
Tropical Beachside brokered by eXp - Cocoa Beach, FL
"The Accidental Blogger" Cocoa Beach, Florida

It depends...did your neighbor know that the agent is a fierce competitor and listed with them to be malicious and spiteful? OR

did they not know that when they listed with that agent?

did you talk to your neighbor and ask why they chose that agent?

did you know that your neighbor was listing and not ask for the listing?

There are too many unanswered questions to give a good answer.

But I do love Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist idea! How on earth does she find these things? 🤣

Oct 17, 2021 06:49 PM
Eve Alexander
Buyers Broker of Florida - Orlando, FL
Exclusively Representing ONLY Orlando Home Buyers

One time I sold a house to a guy who lived with his sister as roommates. 


She worked as a licensed realtor and had no idea that he was even looking to buy anything.


I asked and he did not want his sis to know any of his business...


Maybe the neighbor has financial issues that he does not want his friends  to know.



Oct 18, 2021 07:39 AM
Alan May
Jameson Sotheby's International Realty - Evanston, IL
A moving experience!

I would be hurt that my neighbour of 20 years, tennis parter and golf buddy had listed his home with another agent without at least giving me a heads-up.


I understand that some people don't like to mix business and friendship.  They don't want their good friend to know all the squeaky details of their lives... I get that.  But talk to me. 


I don't want to walk out my front door to find someone else's sign staring at me from next door.  That's going to jeopardize our friendship (and what's more... they KNOW that!).

Oct 18, 2021 07:18 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker, eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Ugh.... I bet that totally pi$$ed off your friend. Tell your friend to not stick around during open house weekend!

Oct 18, 2021 04:59 AM
Jerry Thomas-Construction Loans
Cranbrook Loans - Farmington Hills, MI
Construction Loans in MI, OH, VA, GA and FL.

It happens and it hurts. I've had friends, family members and fellow church members that I'm close to list with other agents. Just to add insult to injury some have even called me for advice ask doing so.

Oct 18, 2021 03:33 AM
Hannah Williams
HomeStarr Realty - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-820-3376


Oct 17, 2021 07:56 PM
John Juarez
The Medford Real Estate Team - Fremont, CA

Not next door, but two doors down, house I helped her buy, seller for whom I helped sell a rental in the past, listed here house a couple of weeks ago with a local competitor who offered a commission rate that I would not match.

Life goes on.

Oct 17, 2021 06:04 PM
Andrea Bedard
Thompson Company, REALTORS® 240.593.2860 - Silver Spring, MD
Fluent in Real Estate & German, M.A. ABR ASP CIPS

I like your sense of humor Gary Frimann, CRS, GRI, SRES - or your friend's!


While you may not have wanted to list your friend's house - sometimes it's wise to not go there - what hurts is him using the competitor, and not getting the opportunity to say "Thank you, but no thank. Allow me to connect you with another terrific agent I know. You know I'll only refer the best." That is what we really want, isn't it? 


Having said that, crime scene tape and other goodies are currently on sale at the Halloween store.

Oct 18, 2021 07:13 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy


Maybe it is for the best!  Sometimes friendship can be ruined in a business relationship.  /A

Oct 18, 2021 07:11 AM
Fred Griffin Florida Real Estate
Fred Griffin Real Estate - Tallahassee, FL
Licensed Florida Real Estate Broker

It happens. 

Oct 17, 2021 06:13 PM
Eileen Burns
Trans State Commercial RE Ft. Lauderdale/Miami/Palm Beach - Fort Lauderdale, FL
FL Probate Agent, Hotel, Land, Multi Family

I agree with Lyn Sims change your tennis and golf team members.  Turnaround is fair play😎

Oct 18, 2021 07:13 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Has happened to us all one time or another, have to get over it and move on! 

Oct 18, 2021 06:18 AM
Karen Climer
Demetree School of Real Estate - Orlando, FL
Teaching people to pass the real estate exam

Could you have done anything more to get the listing if you wanted it?  I'm betting you could have.  Maybe you up your game.

Oct 18, 2021 05:52 AM
Olga Simoncelli
Veritas Prime, LLC dba Veritas Prime Real Estate - New Fairfield, CT
CONSULTANT, Real Estate Services & Risk Management

A friend of mine once told me she would never engage a good friend as a real estate agent or a gynecologist, two "verboten" professions.

Oct 18, 2021 05:49 AM
Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041
ReMax Realtec Group - Palm Harbor, FL
Making FLORIDA Real Estate EZ

I would do nothiing. Actually I do  not solict business from friends and neighbors. However, my solutions have been turned down in favor of the local celebrity.
Crime scene tape or park a beater out front?

Oct 18, 2021 05:28 AM
Ernie Steele
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Homesale Realty - Lebanon, PA
Call me, let's get started!!! 717-273-3774

Personally, I only work with friends and relatives if they insist on it.  Some folks just don't want you to know about their personal situation. 

Oct 18, 2021 05:01 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Michael Jacobs nailed it! Life goes on...

Oct 18, 2021 04:17 AM
Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, Phoenix Broker
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ

OMG Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist has the perfect solution yellow crime scene set!  Buy two!

Oct 18, 2021 10:04 AM
Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA - Thousand Oaks, CA
Residential Real Estate and Investment Properties

I'd at least have your friend ask them why they chose someone else to represent them.  It's saved a few friendships.

Oct 18, 2021 09:44 AM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Have to say no, it happens, we do not like it but it happens


Oct 18, 2021 09:24 AM
Raymond Henson, eXp Realty
eXp Realty of California, Inc. (lic. #01878277) - Elk Grove, CA


I had a neighbor I coached through getting his house ready to sell for over a year.  He repeatedly told me I was going to help him sell the house.  One day, I received a call from him.  He was celebrating listing his home with another agent.  I didn't even get an opportunity.  It was a definite, OUCH!

Oct 18, 2021 07:56 AM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

The pain of it all...Oh well, give & take is visiting and making the rounds. Perhaps it is some other guys turn. We all get them...

Oct 18, 2021 06:15 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate - St. George, UT
So Utah Residential, Referral & Relocation REALTOR

Would be tempting for some, Gary Frimann, CRS, GRI, SRES, LOL! Set up a series of tennis and golf times, stand him up, explaining each time, that you have to show his house to potential buyers.




When you see potentially buyers and their agent approach his house, walk out on the front porch in just a stained wife beater t-shirt and your boxers. Scratch yourself while waving vigorously!

Oct 18, 2021 06:30 PM
Caroline Gerardo
Sun West Mortgage Corporation - Newport Beach, CA
C. G. Barbeau the Loan Lady nmls 324982

Isn't it time to collect titan arum (corpse pant)? Hydnora africana or jackal food is also an exotic odifirous plant for the property line. Painting party with 10 punk rock teens and free pizza to paint your mail box popscyle orange and the planter on that side Prince purple, spray cans allowed. Buy used bagpipes and practice during daylight hours. Who needs lessons just keep blowing?  Have Cameron Norrie for dinner and tell everyone at the tennis club you know it's a secret. Fish some golf balls out of a lake, poke holes in them and slip into his bag, and stand him up for golf dates. Say nothing, smile alot, offer no advice, keep  practicing here's some music



Oct 18, 2021 05:18 PM
Don Baker
Lane Realty - Eatonton, GA
Lake Sinclair Specialist

Honestly sometimes friendships are best preserved by not doing business.  Take the opportunity to get a great new neighbor and sell it.

Oct 18, 2021 05:04 PM
Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor®
Carmel by the Sea, CA
Rothwell Realty Inc. CA#01968433 Carmel-by-the-Sea

That's the toughest thing to face in real estate, and it does happen.  It would be nice to know why, though.  Sometimes, one could have done something.  Maybe during those tennis and golf games,  you didn't listen when he said he was retiring to a far away place, or wanted to downsize or whatever?  Or you talked about your clients that he didn't like?  Or there is a trust issue? I would ask the dude why, maybe there is something to be learned here. 

Oct 18, 2021 04:59 PM
Jeff Pearl
RE/MAX Distinctive / LIC in VA - Lovettsville, VA
Full Service Full Time Realtor

Well, if he's selling and moving away, you're going to lose a tennis partner and golf buddy anyway, so might as well have some fun. Put a For Sale By Owner Agent or Coming Soon sign in your yard. Then take them down after a couple weeks and say you changed your mind about selling. Make sure you put a HAUNTED sign rider on top.

Oct 18, 2021 03:20 PM
Peter Mohylsky. Broker -BRIX REALTY
Miramar Beach, Florida - Santa Rosa Beach, FL

Ouch, but some things were not ment to happen.  Move on. 

Oct 18, 2021 11:49 AM
Candice A. Donofrio
Next Wave RE Investments LLC Bullhead City AZ Commercial RE Broker - Fort Mohave, AZ
928-201-4BHC (4242) call/text

LOL no. I don't want to list neighbors' properties . . . let the neighbor's agent handle it all (and you know the neighbor will try to involve you, just shut up and smile) 

PS honey I'm Italian. We don't leave witnesses . . . the crime scene tape would not apply to someone 'who just disappeared' LOL

Oct 18, 2021 09:56 AM
Jeff Masich-Scottsdale AZ Associate Broker,MBA,GRI
HomeSmart Real Estate - Scottsdale, AZ
Arizona Homes and Land Group/ Buy or Sell

I would let him win a few more tennis matches orgolf  rounds as the case may be. Jeff 😎

Oct 18, 2021 10:37 PM
Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, EXP - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

I may not refer to that neighbor as a "Buddy".

Beyond that I would just ignore the sign and the open house, focus your energy on other listings.

Oct 18, 2021 07:17 PM
Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets
Big Block Realty 858.232.8722 - La Jolla, CA
& Host of Postcards From Success Podcast

Some do not mix business with pleasure and you have to respect that.

Sometimes it's your own fault; did you ask for the business?

Does he even know you're a REALTOR? 

But, if they know you and what you do, they made a decision and you'll either repect it or you'll let it affect it (your friendship).

Oct 19, 2021 05:46 PM
Anita Clark
Coldwell Banker Access Realty ~ 478.960.8055 - Warner Robins, GA
Realtor - Homes for Sale in Warner Robins GA

I have both received and lost biz because consumers did not want to list with someone they knew well. No hard feelings...there is plenty to go around.

Nov 28, 2021 09:35 AM
Tony Lewis
Summit Real Estate Group - Valencia, CA
Summit Real Estate Santa Clarita & Aliso Viejo

This happened to me.  My next door neighber had asked for market value many times over the ten years we were neighbors.  They listed with an agent in my company.  I tried to find out why and was treated with disdain.

Oct 24, 2021 09:55 AM